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Sep. 4th, 2011 11:15 pmMy grandparents are from a proud generation. They don't like the idea of accepting money from anyone, even family. The arguments that have broken out between my grandmother and her daughters over paying a restaurant bill are beyond entertaining. However, they also have a fixed income and cannot get around easily since my grandfather can't drive any more.
Therefore, we do what we can to help them--give them rides to appointments or family gatherings, get take-out for them, and, yes, leave cash behind whenver we eat at their house or stay overnight. The latter doesn't apply to me since I live in Windsor now, but I do use their washing machine; I don't trust the machine in my building. As I am using their power and water, I naturally wish to compensate them, despite their refusals. I was going to leave cash behind next weekend when my mother visits so they think she left it; however, events today forced my hand.
I went into their bedroom to look for one of their cats; they couldn't find her and the last place I saw her was just outside their bedroom. My grandmother accused me of hiding money in their room, an accusation I denied because it wasn't true. However, since she brought it up, I decided to slip twenty dollars under the iron in the laundry room. It always has to be hidden, otherwise she refuses to accept it. Whenever my mothers visits it's always a game of hiding money in the house and getting luggage out before my grandmother finds it and hides it in a suitcase for us to find at home. So far we're still winning; I've hidden money under the iron twice and haven't found it slipped into any pockets when I haven't noticed.
They can complain all they want, but nothing is going to stop the family from supporting the Big Kahuna and Kahuni; after almost sixty years of marriage and eighty years of existence on this planet, they've earned it.
Therefore, we do what we can to help them--give them rides to appointments or family gatherings, get take-out for them, and, yes, leave cash behind whenver we eat at their house or stay overnight. The latter doesn't apply to me since I live in Windsor now, but I do use their washing machine; I don't trust the machine in my building. As I am using their power and water, I naturally wish to compensate them, despite their refusals. I was going to leave cash behind next weekend when my mother visits so they think she left it; however, events today forced my hand.
I went into their bedroom to look for one of their cats; they couldn't find her and the last place I saw her was just outside their bedroom. My grandmother accused me of hiding money in their room, an accusation I denied because it wasn't true. However, since she brought it up, I decided to slip twenty dollars under the iron in the laundry room. It always has to be hidden, otherwise she refuses to accept it. Whenever my mothers visits it's always a game of hiding money in the house and getting luggage out before my grandmother finds it and hides it in a suitcase for us to find at home. So far we're still winning; I've hidden money under the iron twice and haven't found it slipped into any pockets when I haven't noticed.
They can complain all they want, but nothing is going to stop the family from supporting the Big Kahuna and Kahuni; after almost sixty years of marriage and eighty years of existence on this planet, they've earned it.
